my life is like a teenage boy
this pigeon was having trouble pecking at a stale cookie on the street so i went over and crushed it with my foot so it could eat better and i think that was the nicest thing i did this year
FUCK YOU GUYS WHO THOUGHT THAT I CRUSHED THE PIGEON AT FIRST IM A NICE PERSON
Recently, a friend confided in me that they suffered emotional and physical abuse from their family. They told me their real dad doesn’t want or love them and they haven’t spoken in years, and before that, there were constant broken promises and disappointments until eventually their dad just told them he had no interest in them at all. Their mother is distant, cold, strict, and emotionally unavailable. My friend tries constantly to please her, and make her proud, but she acts indifferent towards them or screams and punishes them. She and her boyfriend provide well for my friend and their siblings, but hold it over their heads. “They think if they buy us nice things thats enough, and they won’t have to actually try to be good parents.” is how they described it. The mom’s boyfriend used to hurt my friend, in what ways exactly they did not disclose. They mentioned something about a sister with a black eye, and a brother who got a whipping too hard, but talked as if, being the oldest, they took the biggest part of the violence. As far as the physical abuse goes, they told me it hadn’t happened in a long time because they’d all learned when not to push the boyfriend’s buttons. The mom allowed all this to happen, without saying a word. This person feels unloved, unwanted, annoying, unimportant, unlikable, like a pest. They have serious anxiety issues. They have terribly low self confidence. The impacts from this are reaching into every aspect of their life: their relationships, their friendships, their sense of purpose. This person has found someone they truly make happy in a relationship, and they question it constantly, saying their not good enough, they don’t deserve a happy relationship. They question if their friends even really like them or if they’re there out of obligation/pity.
If anyone has any ideas on how I can help this person, be there to support them, help them feel better, help them start taking steps to overcome this, PLEASE don’t hesitate to message me. I have an ask box, you can reply to this, you can email me, you can even text me: just message me for the number. I want to help in the best and most effective way possible, but I’ve personally never experienced anything remotely like this. I come from a warm loving family, and my parents never raise their voices or their hands. So if anyone could please give me some advice, I would appreciate it so much?